I wasn't born this way, was I?

We often heard this phrase, "I wasn't born this way", "I supposed to be a better person..." or "I was trapped with the circumstances and was forced to be like this" or worst, "God created me this way..." This happens all the time, anywhere, with most people among us. Well, folks... It's true that most people regret their own nature, they blamed many thing in life, instead accepting that was the result of their own free will, they were the one that choose to be like that, choose to walk that path.

With all respect, I'm not trying to corner some people here, which have a different lifestyle from most people in the civilization. But, I'm trying to invite all of us to re-think about this matter of fact for a moment. If we choose to stay neutral for a while and try to see it from nobody's boots. See everything just like how it is supposed to be.

I believe that each of us is the product of our past. We are what we did and experience in the past. It is the bitter truth that each of us faced and dealt with all along. There is nobody that isn't their past's product. One way or another in somehow somewhere in certain point of our life, we faced a certain occasion that change or give a certain kick in our memory that made us be like we are today. Whether it was good memories, or even a dark traumatizing experience.

We grew in this corrupted world, where everything wasn't in perfect harmony anymore... All things that happens in this world got the potential to bring harm to us. I'm not exaggerating my statement here, nor even bubbling another unnecessary fear here. They only way to attain a perfect life is to be aware of everything. That's why I invite each of us to be mentally alert with these things, that all so long had been ignored from our conscious mind.

To bring a great change in life, we had to start with a big realization of things, many things, that could possibly the major cause of our misery. In this case, this topic, is the past that each of us got behind us.

Many nowadays theory, teach us that each of us is the product of our past. It is true, but the answer of our struggle to survive was unsatisfactory enough. Mostly these self-help theory suggest us to accept our nature. Acceptance is the one and only cure. You become like that because that is the way you were destined to be. So rather than struggle any further and causin unnecessary pain. It will become wiser to stop struggling and accept that. At certain point, I do agree with this, but it doesn't stop there. We gotta do something! Not just accept everything become the victim of our past, and sit back and just let the past drive our act wildly, causing another further damages. No! It should stop, and it wasn't supposed to be like that also.

We are what we did/experienced. It is true! We should accept our past, any bad things, unfavorable memories, et cetera... It also true! But then, after you're done with make peace with your past, it doesn't mean that you can now freely walk the path that your past had brought you into. I don't want to mentions examples here, since it brought many controversial issue here. I'm avoiding unnecessary argument ahead. But if you insist me on mentioning one example, Here we go...

"Let say, that I was a normal kid, and grew in a normal family, but, somewhere somehow I didn't grow into a perfectly normal guy, I got this insecure feeling being as my gender suppose to be in community, I got a 'gender identity crisis' I feel insecure to appeal in the community as a man I supposed to be, I feel deep inside that I was a pretty girl, but I was too afraid to confess to other... In the end, I moved far-far away to another town, got myself hooked with plastic surgeon, make some tweak here and there with my body-parts, went into governmental administration bureau make some paper work, and voila... I lady I become..."

That is one example, one common example we can find easily these days... They believe they wasn't born that way, they feel insecure and many other argument. Maybe several numbers went into a counselor, and got the same advice, to make peace with the past... Accept it just as it is...

But it wasn't supposed to be like that, I never was... People these day quit to fast... They got cornered, stuck in certain position, and give up... Dear fella, it wasn't suppose to be like that.

We have to fight for what was right. What God created us to be, If you were destined to be a big tree, why end your life as a sapling? If you were destined to be a great person, why give up as a big loser?

Hereby, I invite us, each of us, together, to make peace with our past, but then continue walk on, struggle, fight, and in the end... conquer our problems, the problems that our past cornered us into. It can be anything, overeating, shame, pain, certain disorder, certain addiction... whatever.... We can change our life, since it was ours to begin with, the life is present, what matter is present, not the past, so... Fight it, with all of your might, fight like there will be no tomorrow, and mostly... Expect God to enable you to walk the path that you choose to walk. The fight that you willingly choose to fight. The fight to freedom, To a better me, To a better tomorrow...

Never give up hope, dear fella. Never give up...